How To Make Friends With The Couple You’re Swinging With
Q: Nathan and his wife are looking to open up their relationship to threesomes and more-somes. But, they also want more of a friendship with the couple they’ll be swinging with. They tried FEELD and other swinging dating apps but haven’t found a couple they click with. One they didn’t like, and another couple ghosted them. Nathan asked The Cooper and Anthony Show, how does a couple find a couple to be friends with but also to swing with? Why is this so difficult?
A: Welcome to dating Nathan. You guys obviously have forgotten how hard it is to find “the one,” and that is what’s going on here. Except, in your case, “the one” is the one couple who you both click with, are attracted to, and who don’t have weird rules and won’t ghost you. This is no different than dating, it’s just dating times two and you have one other thing working against you.
WHAT COUPLES WHO SWING ARE LOOKING FOR
Most couples who swing are only looking for sex, not a friendship or a connection. You should probably reach out to more of a polyamorous community because poly people are more likely to be looking for the kind of intimacy you’re talking about. They value the relationship as well as the sex.
MEETING A COUPLE IS LIKE DATING IRL
The other thing you can do is get more involved in the swinging community in your city. Just like how the BDSM folks have their meetups they call a “Munch,” you need to find the swinger version. That can be at the local nude beach or at sex parties or even a Facebook group. The idea is that you get to know people first and then decide if you want to have sex with them after, you know, like dating.